Terri’s September Blog

Which is the Bigger Bully?


A poem to ponder:


I’m feeling lonely and tired

Tired of being teased and bullied—by life


Life teases and taunts me, daily

Playing with my overthinking mind


Offering me things I cannot do

Suggesting ways I cannot be

Proposing healing that does not work

Tempting me…repeatedly


But my mind is now trained to be mindful—and so I notice my stressful feelings


At bedtime I wonder just how I’ll make it through another restless night

And each morning as I arise I ponder just what I’ll miss out on today


Watching from the sidelines—merely observing all the joy, excitement, adventure…

I’m thinking toxic, anxious thoughts that build unhealthy stories


Life teases and taunts me, daily, relentlessly

Playing with my overthinking mind


Life can feel so wonderful

And at the same time so wonderless

The contrast is clear


But my mind is now trained to pay attention—and so I observe my stressful thoughts


I’m moody and emotional—cranky and irritable

Because no one understands the truth of my life—especially not me


Life says “Yes” and asks for my commitment

But my mind and body shout “No” with complete conviction


Limitations forever hold me back

And for years I ache for more


I suffer chronically from dreams unrealized

And a life not fully lived


Life teases and taunts me, daily, relentlessly, pulling me from my dignity and grace

Playing with my overthinking mind


But my mind is now trained to become curious rather than judgmental


And so I give myself permission to wonder…


Which is the bigger bully, life, or my overthinking mind?


“Guilty as charged,” said my overthinking mind


~Terri Klein


This is what can happen when you let your overthinking mind take charge—allowing it to sit in the driver’s seat and be in control. Trust me, I’ve been there.


This month I challenge you to reflect upon this very important yet oftentimes neglected topic. Which is the bigger bully for you? How does life play with your overthinking mind?


So many of us have wants, yearnings, and visions that remain unrealized—potential that remains untapped. And more often than not we blame the circumstances of our lives and the hand we’ve been dealt.


If we give ourselves permission to dig deeper, however, we will soon discover that it is our overthinking mind that is responsible—IT is the obstacle.


The overthinking mind is one of the ultimate barriers to our greatness.


But it doesn’t have to taunt and tease, bully and threaten. It can be trained to do otherwise. It can be taught how to be your best friend and greatest ally rather than your biggest bully and worst enemy.


Give yourself permission to “quiet” your overthinking mind.




Coach Terri


P.S. – In my workshops, How to Quiet the Overthinking Mind Levels 1 & 2, we move through a 12-week curriculum that delves deeper into the overthinking mind, mindfulness practices, and related topics. These wellness workshops are ongoing at The Schwartz Reisman Centre and registration is open. My next Level 1 Workshop will run from Oct. 9 – Nov. 13, 2018.



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