Goodbye Should; Hello Must
What I should have done this summer:
I should have invested in…
- Updating my website (launched in 2014)
- Developing better branding and business marketing strategies
- Expanding upon my pre-existing wellness curriculum
- Creating new PowerPoints to support that new curriculum
- Networking on Linked-In & building my social media presence
- Building my subscriber list & coaching clientele
- Securing future speaking engagements
- Connecting with people on Facebook
Buddhist wisdom has expanded my understanding of both suffering and joy. My intention today is to focus on the joy—more specifically on one particular state of mind known as “sympathetic joy.”
Buddhism teaches that there are four inner states where it is most valuable to reside: loving-kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy, and equanimity. These have been referred to as the four immesasurables because they have no limit. Read more
Making Peace With My Pain at 50:
I consider every birthday to be a cause for celebration and most to be a time for healthy reflection. By that I mean, it’s a good time to review the past and to set goals for the future while at the same time not attaching to any particular outcome. One very important lesson that I’ve learned over the years is that while having a bigger vision and smaller goals are essential, the pressure-filled timeline that usually goes along with them is definitely not.
We cannot possibly control all of the circumstances of our lives. Life is ultimately a co-creation and an unfolding. Of course over the years I’ve had many different visions for my future, some which I have manifested while others I have not. Yet, all things considered, I do my best to acknowledge and celebrate the successes and learn from the rest. I encourage my students and clients to do the same and to consider their “non-successes” not as failures, but rather as teachings that become opportunities for course correction and personal growth. Read more
Redefining Change: From Transformation to Liberation
So many people get anxious just thinking about change. Every feeling we have and emotion we experience is the result of a thought, a story—of what we have made something mean.
So many of us have made change mean something that feels uncomfortable and is difficult to achieve, and for this reason we tend to feel anxious around it and shy away from it altogether. Read more
The Truth – Redefined
Warren Buffett wrote: What human beings are best at doing is interpreting all new information so that their prior conclusions remain intact.
In other words, he was confirming the human need for “confirmation bias.” Read more
Living from a Place of Surrender
Many years ago I read a fascinating book by Michael Singer entitled The Untethered Soul. The book intrigued me from beginning to end. I remember reading the words and thinking they were written precisely for me.
I think Singer was the first person to help me truly grasp what he called “the voice inside your head,” which he referred to as “your inner roommate.” I was already aware of this voice inside of my overthinking mind and therefore was so eager to learn more about it. Read more