A City United by Sport
I don’t consider myself to be an avid sports fan. I absolutely love sports, but I find that watching complete games or tournaments can be quite boring and even laborious, given their length. After I’ve wasted hours in front of any screen, I always have to justify whether or not it was time well spent. I consciously and consistently choose to use my time wisely, or at least I try to do so.
During the regular season, if my son would call me in to watch a basketball game, I would join him for a few minutes at best. But when the Raptors were playing in the Eastern Conference Semi-Finals, against the Philadelphia 76ers, I was intrigued and I chose to watch the second half of every game. Read more
The “OCD” Overthinking Mind
My personal focus as an author, speaker, and coach is on mental health and wellness. I help people to quiet their overthinking mind and build their emotional muscle. I have learned and experienced first hand that a trained mind can help to quiet an overthinking mind. I have also learned that the overthinking mind of someone who lives with mental illness is not the same as the overthinking mind of someone who does not, but that ultimately both can be trained. The difference is that people with mental illness require a much greater support system and more varied approaches, which sometimes include medication, as well as deeper trainings such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Read more
The Cost of Being Too Busy
How often do you use the word “busy” to describe the state of your life? It seems like it’s really in fashion these days to be busy.
Although busy is defined as having a great deal to do, I get the feeling that we all experience “being busy” in very different ways: Read more
Parenting—Then & Now
Parenthood is one of the greatest gifts. Becoming a parent three times offered me my three greatest blessings. Taking on the role of mother felt right, natural, and beautiful. I felt loved, appreciated, and needed. And then…things changed.
The kids grew up, technology advanced, devices of all kinds emerged, and I chose not to board the technological bandwagon. At the time, I had no idea of the long-term consequences of that decision. Over time, however, I noticed my frustration increasing, the generation gap widening, and my role as parent—clearly shifting. Read more
Powerful Questions for the New Year
When you make mental wellness a priority—you lay the foundation for a beautiful life. An important statement, no doubt, but what does it mean to you?
My greatest teaching from the field of coaching is the importance of a powerful question. Every powerful question, meaning one that makes you think in a new way, has the capacity to open a new door within the mind, even if only ever so slightly. But there’s always a choice: You can shut it down if it feels too uncomfortable and choose not to go there OR you can choose to get curious, invite it in, and somehow embrace the discomfort knowing full well that this is how we grow. Read more
Intentional Living: Generating Emotions Ahead of Time
How are you is a question that is frequently asked by rote and usually responded to in the same manner. Generally, we respond using one of the following well-known phrases: I’m good, I’m fine, OK, still alive, hanging in there, can’t complain… Our emotional vocabulary may not feel so limited—but it is.
Most people would not respond by saying, “I’m amazing, loving life, never been better!” This has everything to do with our conditioning and lifestyle habits. Clearly, responding from a place of neutrality and/or pessimism has become a default habit. Read more